Don’t Settle For A Fool

Now the name of the man was Nabal, and the name of his wife Abigail. The woman was clever and beautiful, but the man was surly and mean; he was a Calebite. (1 Samuel 25:3) 
 
In our text, we have recorded a rather fascinating narrative about a woman named Abigail who is married to a man named Nabal. In one sense it seems as if she has so much going on for her. She is described as smart and attractive, and when one reads the entire chapter, it appears that she has good wisdom and great communication skills. The problem is that despite everything she has going on for her, she is linked up with a man who is not good for her.  
 
This smart, well educated, well-spoken, beautiful woman is linked up with a brother who is considered a fool. That’s what the text says about him. Her husband’s name was “Nabal,” and in Hebrew, “Nabal” means “fool.” So here is a woman who is fine, brilliant, discerning, and a great negotiator, and at the same time she is married to a fool. 
 
As you read this chapter, you’ll see she spends all of her energy and her time trying to help, love, and protect a man from destroying himself. But he is so immoral, unspiritual, and devoid of character that he is willing to harm himself, and everyone else in the process. And there’s nothing worse in life than being linked up and in relationship with a fool.  
 
Now don’t forget, this can not only happen to women, but it can happen to men as well. That’s right. Women aren’t the only ones who can find themselves in relationships with the wrong person. Men can also find themselves linked up with women who are negative, spiteful, hateful, mean, narcissistic, and unloving. 
 
That is why it is so important that we make wise decisions and pray for discernment as we are looking to get into a relationship with someone. As much as you want to be in a relationship and find the person you’re going to spend your life with, it’s not worth settling on the important things only to end up with a fool because you didn’t want to be alone.  
 
So if you’re someone who is single and looking for your person, my hope is that you would begin praying that God would give you wisdom and discernment as you look and as you wait. Ask Him to help you make wise decisions that honor Him, and pray that He would give you the strength and the courage to withstand any temptation to settle.