Try Not to Take It Personal
"Bear with each other and forgive one another if any of you has a grievance against someone. Forgive as the Lord forgave you."- Colossians 3:13
Healing after being hurt is tough because our natural inclination is to take it personally. This is where all those “how could they do this” and “how could they hurt me like that” thoughts come from. But by stepping back and gaining some perspective, we can see that what someone did is not necessarily about us. It’s about them.
Just look at how Jesus handled Judas’s betrayal. Jesus realized that Judas’s actions were not about Him. Gaining this perspective potentially frees us from thinking that what someone did is about us. It’s not about us. It’s about them.
What they did doesn’t mean you weren’t a good parent, a good spouse, or a good friend. It doesn’t mean you did something wrong to deserve that treatment. It’s about areas in them that have been broken. It’s about an injury in them they tried to medicate.
Jesus was not consumed with anger or resentment or regret, because He didn’t want it to blind Him from what God had next for Him. Even though He was hurt, Jesus knew He had to shift His focus.
When you face betrayal or hurt, try to understand that it often stems from the other person’s struggles and brokenness. This doesn’t excuse their actions, but it helps you see that their behavior is a reflection of their issues, not your worth. By not taking it personally, you can begin to heal and move forward.
Next time you’re hurt, remember Jesus’s example. Don’t let the actions of others consume you with negative emotions. Instead, shift your focus to what God has planned for you. Understanding that it’s not about you but about them can be liberating. It frees you from unnecessary guilt and allows you to forgive and move on.
Forgive as the Lord forgave you. Release the hurt and trust that God has something greater for you beyond the pain. By not taking it personally, you open yourself up to healing, growth, and the wonderful plans God has in store for you.
Healing after being hurt is tough because our natural inclination is to take it personally. This is where all those “how could they do this” and “how could they hurt me like that” thoughts come from. But by stepping back and gaining some perspective, we can see that what someone did is not necessarily about us. It’s about them.
Just look at how Jesus handled Judas’s betrayal. Jesus realized that Judas’s actions were not about Him. Gaining this perspective potentially frees us from thinking that what someone did is about us. It’s not about us. It’s about them.
What they did doesn’t mean you weren’t a good parent, a good spouse, or a good friend. It doesn’t mean you did something wrong to deserve that treatment. It’s about areas in them that have been broken. It’s about an injury in them they tried to medicate.
Jesus was not consumed with anger or resentment or regret, because He didn’t want it to blind Him from what God had next for Him. Even though He was hurt, Jesus knew He had to shift His focus.
When you face betrayal or hurt, try to understand that it often stems from the other person’s struggles and brokenness. This doesn’t excuse their actions, but it helps you see that their behavior is a reflection of their issues, not your worth. By not taking it personally, you can begin to heal and move forward.
Next time you’re hurt, remember Jesus’s example. Don’t let the actions of others consume you with negative emotions. Instead, shift your focus to what God has planned for you. Understanding that it’s not about you but about them can be liberating. It frees you from unnecessary guilt and allows you to forgive and move on.
Forgive as the Lord forgave you. Release the hurt and trust that God has something greater for you beyond the pain. By not taking it personally, you open yourself up to healing, growth, and the wonderful plans God has in store for you.
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