Clearing the Confusion
"Flee from sexual immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the sexually immoral person sins against his own body." – 1 Corinthians 6:18
For many people, the first conversations they ever had or overheard about sex did not come from a healthy, trusted place. It wasn’t the home, the church, or a safe mentor. It was the playground, the locker room, the cafeteria, or the barbershop. And what got passed around was rarely the truth. Most of it was rumor, exaggeration, or flat-out nonsense.
Some of us grew up thinking that sex was a measure of strength or maturity. Others were taught, either directly or indirectly, that sex was dirty or shameful. And sadly, instead of correcting those distortions, many churches stayed silent. Or worse, they reduced the conversation to a single message: don’t do it. No context, no compassion, and no clarity.
The problem is, when you only hear about sex from places that are uninformed or judgmental, you walk into adulthood carrying confusion, shame, and fear. You feel the tension between what the world says and what you never fully learned. And that confusion often leads to silence, secrets, and wounds that go unhealed.
But God is not silent about sex. He created it. He called it good. And His design for it is not about guilt. It is about protection, purpose, and connection. Sex outside of that design can lead to pain and regret, not because God is cruel, but because He knows the cost of using something sacred the wrong way.
You might have grown up hearing more myths than truth. You might have made some choices you regret. But today is not about shame. It is about clarity. God is not trying to hide the truth from you. He wants you to walk in freedom and wisdom.
I want to challenge you to start asking the right questions. Get in the Word. Talk to people who are grounded in both grace and truth. You do not have to stay confused. God can heal the shame, correct the lies, and guide you into a deeper understanding of what He always meant for this part of your life.
For many people, the first conversations they ever had or overheard about sex did not come from a healthy, trusted place. It wasn’t the home, the church, or a safe mentor. It was the playground, the locker room, the cafeteria, or the barbershop. And what got passed around was rarely the truth. Most of it was rumor, exaggeration, or flat-out nonsense.
Some of us grew up thinking that sex was a measure of strength or maturity. Others were taught, either directly or indirectly, that sex was dirty or shameful. And sadly, instead of correcting those distortions, many churches stayed silent. Or worse, they reduced the conversation to a single message: don’t do it. No context, no compassion, and no clarity.
The problem is, when you only hear about sex from places that are uninformed or judgmental, you walk into adulthood carrying confusion, shame, and fear. You feel the tension between what the world says and what you never fully learned. And that confusion often leads to silence, secrets, and wounds that go unhealed.
But God is not silent about sex. He created it. He called it good. And His design for it is not about guilt. It is about protection, purpose, and connection. Sex outside of that design can lead to pain and regret, not because God is cruel, but because He knows the cost of using something sacred the wrong way.
You might have grown up hearing more myths than truth. You might have made some choices you regret. But today is not about shame. It is about clarity. God is not trying to hide the truth from you. He wants you to walk in freedom and wisdom.
I want to challenge you to start asking the right questions. Get in the Word. Talk to people who are grounded in both grace and truth. You do not have to stay confused. God can heal the shame, correct the lies, and guide you into a deeper understanding of what He always meant for this part of your life.
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Ok....sex...I just happened to have been a Pastor in my earlier days. So I do not approach this scripture lightly. Masterbation is another sexual situation. Is a single person to be denied this pleasure just because of moral interpretation, i.e., it's a sin....they're not married. I think not. To approach it as a sin may leave people shamed, guilty, etc.
nWhat say you. This real life issue, can't be fixed by quoting another scripture.
n1 Cor 6:18